My personal experience with Radical Forgiveness and HAPPINESS therapy was life changing. It opened the door to new happiness and joy and freed me from the burden of the past. Radical forgiveness brought inner freedom to my life and allowed me to create a better future. My story shows how happiness therapy can bring peace, love and acceptance. I am grateful for this experience and hope that others will be inspired by it.

My Personal Experience with Radical Forgiveness

For me, the Radical Forgiveness journey was a life-changing experience. This is one of the best things that has ever happened to me in my life and I am truly grateful. Today I live a completely new life, and my life has opened up to new possibilities, happiness and joy of life, which was not possible in my previous constant sense of sacrifice.

With my family's consent, I am sharing my story. My biggest sadness in life has been longing for my father, my childhood home and family. 

When I was 5, my parents separated and soon after, my father lost his life through violence. It was a life collapse for little me.

I no longer had a father, my home or a family in this form. I still remember the smell of the home I left behind and miss my chickens. I felt loss, abandonment, shock and, like children, I thought it was all my fault. I felt helpless and wildly angry that neither I nor anyone else could save my father. 

I never held a grudge against the man who took my father's life, but I did hold a grudge against my father for not wanting to live, and that even me, the adorable 5-year-old slob and my dear older brother, weren't enough for him to want to live and for us. to fight. This is how my child's mind worked and the perfect "victim" was born in me.

Time went on and although I actually had a very beautiful and wonderful childhood, an all-encompassing sense of guilt, inferiority, repressed anger, "good kid syndrome" and a complete belief that I wasn't enough had taken root in my psyche. Added to this is the hidden belief that all men will leave me anyway and that love is not safe.

I got married and became a mother to my two little girls at a relatively young age. Although there was and still is love in our family, I also had an unconscious instinct in the background to create my own family and home as soon as possible and to "overwrite" my childhood experience. My psyche just worked that way.

But what happened was that in the exhaustion of being with two babies, the shadows of my past came alive in me. I remember it was so unbearably awful and I couldn't do anything with myself. I was desperate, exhausted, nervous and losing weight.

I couldn't find or ask for help, much less accept it. At a moment of crisis, I decided that I couldn't go on like this anymore. I started looking for help because life like this was definitely not worth living. I decided to choose life. A better life.

Pärast mitmeid katsetusi jõudsin ma lõpuks  oma teraapia kooli (Teadlik Mina) üdini praktiliste õpinguteni. Ja ausalt, ma nutsin seal pea kaks esimest aastat. Nutsin ja nutsin, kuniks ühel hetkel ma enam ei nutnud. Ning värvid, rõõm, eneseväärtus ja tahe hakkasid mu ellu tagasi tulema.

After graduation and lots of internships and practices, I was shocked to discover that the victim mentality and the feeling that I was being wronged or wronged was still with me. Some puzzle piece of the whole was still missing for me.

This is how I finally came to the experience and studies of Radical Forgiveness, or RA. Radical forgiveness as a pair of words sounds challenging, but in its essence, the goal of the RA method is to bring you out of the state, experience and way of thinking of being a victim or sufferer and to reach peace, acceptance and love again.

The RA experience changed my life drastically. I was finally freed from the identity of being a victim and the story of the past that had become so characteristic of me. I was finally able to release all the parties and family members that I consciously and unconsciously held responsible for my happiness and unhappiness in life. I was finally able to discover and acknowledge my unconscious addiction to victimhood and break free from it and thus take control of my own life.

Today, life continues along new paths. Although life still brings new challenges and learnings, today I have much more inner freedom to focus on the possibilities of the present and the future instead of the limitations of the past. My family relationships and especially my relationship with myself improved. My health and mood are significantly better. I am calmer and more energetic. Above all, I experience more peace, freedom and happiness.

I discovered that Radical Forgiveness is like HAPPINESS therapy, because I too opened up to a new possibility of happiness, joy, peace, love and acceptance in my life. The most amazing thing is that it has lasted!

I wish you the same! That's how I became a certified instructor of the RA method and that's how ÜNNE therapy was born.